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My EX married a better man, making me a bitter man.

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

WARNING: THIS IS A SAD ENTRY. DON’T READ IF YOU HAVE NOT EATEN DINNER YET :D

After days of being indolent, here i resurfaced again.there must be a reason, a good one.

This morning while my mom was listening to the radio, i overheard the caller saying, “i would like to dedicate this love song to my ex-girlfriend who is now…. my wife” (cute).  This made me realize that not all exes are ought to be disremembered for they will only bring about memories of unfulfilled promises, vows etc.

Before lunch today, my cousin told another cousin and the latter cousin told me (haha ang gulo) that she heard from a professional and reliable gossipmonger that my former GF already got married. I did not buy the unconfirmed information conveyed to me as my ex told me before that she’ll get married only when she reaches 30. Plainly, i shrugged off, totally dismissed the report then continued making fun of our youngest sister. STOP HERE IF YOU HAVE A SENSITIVE HEART/STOMACH. If not, click MORE hereunder.lol

After lunch, the other side of me has this question in mind, “what if the report was true?” and the other side replied, “no. It can’t be true”.  So to settle the disagreement without further ado, i decided to check her Friendster account. While thinking which browser to use, whether firefox, safari, opera, chrome or IE, i remembered, she already removed me from her friends list as early as November 2006 so i cannot possibly gain access to her account. To solve my predicament, i used a fictitious account – which account is registered as one of her friends. Brilliant!

Let me pause for a moment…..   …..    …..   …..   …. (deep breath… then sigh) Isn’t it TEARSday today because yesterday is MOANday? Yes, dear readers, the report was all true. She’s already married. She got married with that foreigner guy who took her away from me. Little did he know that, what he took from me is not only my girl, but also my breath, my self-respect, my worth, my future, our well-sewn plans, my dignity, my life. He did not care that i was publicly ridiculed for having lost the girl of my life … the sweetest girl who i used to brag to the public that she belongs to me. He did not know that, to avoid further and intolerable public humiliation i detained myself in my room for months. He did not know how i suffered from insufferable torment, unbearable agony, intense mental anguish, besmirched reputation, sleepless nights, wounded feelings, serious anxiety, and social humiliation. The man, who was known to be independent, strong and a warrior, suddenly became a crybaby.

As if rubbing salt to the injury, the pain became more intense when the people i worked with – my friends, common friends, my classmates, my entire family and even my siblings’ classmates — learned and talked about the breakup. The news unexpectedly made its way to my relatives abroad swiftly. Everybody was asking what happened. And to answer all their inquiries, i was obliged to put up a call center in a flash, applied for a hotline, then hired a group of agents sufficiently enough to cater the number of calls in a day. All you did as a consolation (or whatever you call it) is to prohibit my girl from communicating with me. And when the call center was not enough, i was forced to change phone numbers, both mobile and landline, i was obliged to cancel my Friendster, Ebay and Flicker account, i was left with no choice but to abandon my email accounts and tagged all inquiries as SPAMs. I had my hair cut short so that nobody would recognize me. I had to avoid our usual rendezvous. I had to change domicile.

I planted, I sowed, but somebody else harvested.

The fact that my ex married you is the last straw which broke the camel’s back. I am now resting my case.

Good thing is, I SURVIVED and now in good shape again (thanks to PAU, walang aww sa PAU, LOL). CONGRATULATIONS for having married with the woman who used to be my EVERYTHING, my WORLD….  my LIFE. You’re the winner bro! Please….. never make her cry.

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Previous Comments

goosebumps. tearjerker ka kuya nin! ihatechu :( puyat pa naman ako. namumula tuloy matangpusa ko. honestly, it’s more than a salt rubbed to the injury, mas grabe pa ron. pinatakan pa ng kalamansi. di ko kaya ito. anyways, i commend you for being a real man. you exude a certain trait that your ex should be sorry for kasi pinakawalan ka nya. but glad your okay. glad your fine. welcome back.

segway muna, yung CCC ko ha?;p gandang umagaÜ

Posted by Myk2ts at September 23, 2008, 9:22 am

just got home hahaha, ano itoooooooooooo bkit may ganitoooooooooo hahaha. ayan lumabas din ang may tinatagong lungkot haha. Nag-OL ako kasi i need to find synonyms ng ilang words kaya yun. o sya..tama panalo na sya..mananalo ka rin dont worry kuya :) lablab]
ay can u help me kuya? make me my own/yours intro in statistical analysis hehehe tetext kita :)

Posted by yeine at September 23, 2008, 6:46 pm

sobrang sad naman. i hope you’re okay now. there plenty of fishes in the ocean. try a clown fish :D

Posted by gerald at September 24, 2008, 11:37 am

I don’t really know what to say. This just like a line from a movie but then I realized, this really happened. Oh well, glenn, I need not to say this, SHIT HAPPENS. I just want to know, did you do something to win her back? Maybe, all she needed was for you to fight for her. But I don’t really know the full story, so I guess I should read more. hehe :D Dry your eyes mate. :)

Posted by Roxy at September 25, 2008, 9:29 pm

@Roxy: brilliant you really left a comment as promised. oh dontsuworry mate, im soo bloody fine! thanks to peter pettigrew :D

kidding aside, yes i just dont give a damn without a fight. she was in nevada when the breakup happened. i offered to enroll nursing, in fact i had my transcript (TOR) evaluated by a nursing skul’s registrar office. from law, i intended to enroll nursing or nursing asst if only to get my ass there in the US in a swift. it did not materialize tho because i’ve later learned that she already is cohabiting with the guy. i realized, my plan of going there will be futile. i bombarded her with calls but not long after she changed number. i was blocked and ignored in her YM and Gtalk as well. i lost communication with her. that became my mortal handicap. few months after, her mom called. she told me, “my daughter asked me to return to you the engagement ring you gave her”
i’ve wanted to challenge the guy in a fistfight. but, aside from its improbability due to distance, he’s much much taller than me hahaha. so as an alternative, i joined a workshop about witchcrafting and ordered a voodoo doll at ebay. still it didnt work. probably because the needle i’ve used was a cheapo and perhaps pirated from china or because the cursing spell was a little tongue twisting and i didnt pronounce it well haha.

Posted by kooonin at September 25, 2008, 10:24 pm

haha. you know what glenn, you are something.

Oh well, let’s just put it this way, it’s her loss, not yours. I admire you for doing your part very well I must say. :)

My story is waaay different from yours, you know like, from one world to another, but I somehow can relate to the “lost communication” part. It’s so hard especially when you figured out you’ve been blocked or ignored. I feel for ya mate, I’m glad you are in good shape again and gotten over these hurt feelings. Did you? Seriously =|

Posted by Roxy at September 25, 2008, 11:50 pm

d*mn! sooo sad! :’(

well anyway, marame pa jan.!. and please don’t say na winner yung lalaking yun..lagi mung tandaan na winner ka din kase na overcome mu lahat lahat.. though na di mu nakapiling yung ex girl mu,,keep in mind na you still had soo many friend..

:)

keep it up boy!

Posted by krizzie at September 26, 2008, 11:46 pm

ey, koonin! i deeply empathize with you. and i truly, truly hope that you be completely healed. no one ever said that life is fair. when you hit rockbottom, you can only go up. i wish you fly, koonin! sama ko. pangarap ko yun, e. hehe. :)

Posted by mordsith at September 29, 2008, 10:08 am

@Roxy; thank you very much. i appreciate your brotherly advice. Im okay, i swear.. and you can tell even by merely looking at my smile >>>:D

Posted by kooonin at September 29, 2008, 4:02 pm

@krizzie: your story is way more depressing than mine. somehow your story helped me. it goes with the saying, “i keep complaining about by worn out pair of slippers until i saw a man without feet”

Posted by kooonin at September 29, 2008, 4:07 pm

@mordsith: i believe im completely healed but a disgusting scar was left. an unsightly mark will, i guess, remain in its place forever.
fly with me? haha a friend is tagging me along to try skydiving with her but i readily declined.. i cant afford that kind of leisure. how about flying with her instead? :D

Posted by kooonin at September 29, 2008, 4:17 pm

sa lahat ng nagcomment, salamat sa inyo. group hug tayo LOL.

Posted by kooonin at September 29, 2008, 4:20 pm

i was actually thinking of ala-Storm flight. but then skydiving would suffice for now. haha.

yah, i heard it’s expensive. i want to try it though, but i would have to save for that first. sana makasama ka sa friend mo. ang saya siguro nun. :D

and im glad you’ve healed. it really sucks to see your raison d’ere go away, when all you wanted is to be beside that person. oh, well. :)

Posted by mordsith at September 29, 2008, 6:11 pm

..and few moments after jumping off the plane, you’ll suddenly think of the breakup.. then you’ll deliberately not open your parachute…you’ll close your eyes, then blame yourself for being such a great loser. few minutes thereafter, you’ll barely hear screams and the last thing you’ll see is your blood splattered everywhere. nice, sudden and least painful death, isnt it mordsith? :D

Posted by kooonin at September 29, 2008, 11:46 pm

oh, my. i thought you’ve completely healed. hehe.

kooonin, please not go with your friend in skydiving and try to stay away from buildings. :p

anyway, your friends don’t seem to think you are a loser, and i think they’re right. :)

Posted by mordsith at September 30, 2008, 9:33 am

so sad.

hope u find the right one soon. :)

Posted by rok at October 4, 2008, 11:57 am

thanks rok. i envy you for having found “the one” best wishes for you! :D

Posted by kooonin at October 4, 2008, 3:54 pm

tho we’re not that close i can really feel u.. she’s not really meant for you. keep that in mind.. you’ve done your part and im glad you’re ok now..

cheers to yah bruder! :)

Posted by sp00fed at October 6, 2008, 3:56 pm

Koonin, I didn’t know this was your story. How sad….kahit ako nalungkot.

Hope you are truly healed by this time and have no more excess baggage…sige ka, wala kang discount sa Cebu Pacific!

SMILE! :)

Posted by kg at October 14, 2008, 11:20 am

I was indeed touched by your story. I can somehow relate to your “Isolation Days”, its really hard.

I congratulate you for moving on and I wish you good luck in finding someone who would love you and be with you for the rest of your life.

Posted by Pau-pau at October 20, 2008, 7:39 pm

aw. kahit di tayo close or magkakilala pa, *hugs* hehehe.

the person destined for you might just be around the corner so keep your eyes open din. i admire men like you who’s not ashamed to show or reveal their feelings. 2008 na tayo, uso pa rin yung boys don’t cry epek.

i love your blog, btw. napangiti mo ko kahit sa blog post na ‘to.

ano nga pala yung sinabi mong tip sa blog ko? di ko gets. lolz

Posted by blankpixels at October 22, 2008, 11:07 am

hi, im just passing by. something dragged my eyes to read this. it sucks huh? when the person whom you wished and prayed forever with is starting to spend that forevermore with someone else. it may still hurt…it may still give you that pinch pero i’m sure that you’ll find that someone who would make you forget about all the tears you shed and the pain you felt. someone who would make you thankful and grateful that you had to go through all those because it lead you to her. im sure, God is still busy writing your love story that would sweep you off your feet!

just hold on, good things come to those who wait patiently! :)

Posted by rhea at October 25, 2008, 1:08 am

…… (sighhhhhh)your love story is such a bloody one.. anyway, its not your lost dear, its her big lost, right!!! but admit it, masakit pa din noh..:-l

Posted by shiloh at November 13, 2008, 4:28 pm

thanks for your opinion shiloh.. :) your point is well-taken :)

Posted by kuyanin at November 13, 2008, 8:49 pm

ooh.. ur most welcome! :-) god bless!!

Posted by shiloh at November 17, 2008, 3:18 pm

I was just passing by, looking for synonyms of “hurt” it’s really so funny! the tag line really hits me! lol
I felt the temptation to read it, and I felt sad… :(

well, it’s been a year, hope you are healed now.

Wish you happiness though we haven’t met yet.

Posted by diosa at August 8, 2009, 4:21 pm

@diosa: you mean you googled for hurt then this site popped out? kewl! :D
I deeply appreciate your wish Diosa. God bless you! :)

Posted by koonin at August 23, 2009, 10:07 am

hay nintuks. :) i hope you find happiness.. that relationship was just not meant to be. You deserved better than what she put you through. Ang unfair naman.. pero God has somebody more worthy of your love. You’re a great guy. Malamang hindi yung pinakasalan nya yung better man noh. Madami pang iba dyan.. God bless.

Posted by Mae at April 15, 2010, 4:30 am

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